If you’re looking for the perfect black oversized coat, here are some of my favourite finds for the year—ranging from affordable to premium brands.

Zara Limited Edition Long Wool Coat

Outer: 70% Wool, 30% Polymide

Lining: 100% Viscose

Weekday Alex Wool Blend Coat

Outer: Wool 51%, Polyester 41%, Polyamide 4%, Acrylic 4%

Lining: 90% Polyester

The Frankie Shop Anya Oversized Coat

90% Wool, 10% Nylon

RÓHE Saul Coat

78% wool, 22% polyamide. 

This is one of the first books I’ve read about relationships that made me jaw-drop at how accurately it described some of my past relationships. This was the first time I was learning about attachment styles and I honestly am amazed I never heard of them before. If you haven’t heard about attachment styles before, here’s what they are: 

The 3 Attachment Styles

Avoidant

Those who fall under the avoidant attachment style tend to perceive themselves as “lone wolves”, strong, independent, and self-sufficient (almost to a fault). They do not want to depend on others or have others depend on them. They tend to avoid emotional closeness and are afraid of deep connections and commitment. 

Adults with this attachment style tend to also hide or suppress their feelings in emotionally-dense situations and in their relationships. 

Anxious

Anxious adults, think of their partners as their “better half” and can’t imagine living without their partner. Those with this attachment style can often have a negative self-image and look to others to fill their void. They seek approval, support, and responsiveness from their partners. This can cause worry and doubt that their partner isn’t as invested in the relationship as they are. 

Secure

In contrast to the previous two (which we can categorize as “insecure” attachment styles), secure adults often feel comfortable expressing emotions openly and believe that they deserve love so they never worry about their partners being unavailable or unresponsive. They can depend on their partner and in turn, let their partners rely on them. 

Secure attachment types thrive in their relationships but also love being on their own. They don’t irrationally fear abandonment and do not depend on the responsiveness or approval of their partners to have a positive view on themselves. 

Actionable Takeaways

1. No matter what attachment style you fall under, open, honest, and effective communication will ALWAYS be the saving grace of your relationship. Even though Avoidant types and Anxious types often attract, it doesn’t mean they are doomed. Relationships containing these two types can still flourish and grow with good communication.
2. Be honest with what you want in a relationship both with your partner and with yourself. Express your needs from the start so there is no disappointment later on. 
3. Love should bring peace. If you’re in a relationship filled with push and pull and a rollercoaster of anxiety, passion, disappointment, and joy, that’s not real love. Your brain has been trained to think that this is what love is but it’s just familiarity because of past traumas. 
4. Secure attachment types often stay out of the dating pool once they leave it. The most common attachment type in the dating pool is avoidant as they tend not to stay in relationships for long. 
5. Secure attachment types risk staying in bad relationships for too long, in hopes that they can lift and change their partner. They also are at risk of being influenced by anxious or avoidant partners and become that as well. 
6. When anxious or avoidant types date secure people, they can change for the better and outgrow their anxious and avoidant tendencies. 

Extras

5 secure principles for resolving conflict

• Show basic concern for the other person’s well-being
• Maintain focus on the problem at hand
• Refrain from generalizing the conflict
• Be willing to engage
• Effectively communicate feelings and needs

Verdict

This book gave me a greater understanding not only of my relationships but also of why I am the way I am in life. It’s helped me identify my own attachment style and provided advice and solutions that I can practice over time so I can build deeper and healthier connections within my relationships. It’s also helped me to understand my past partners more.

I’d highly recommend this book to anyone who’s looking to grow and develop deep connections in their own lives. Whether you’re looking for a relationship, currently in a relationship, or trying to understand why you DON’T want a relationship—this book will give you insights into it all.

Since so many people were interested in what I use in my workspace, here are all the details for everything I use on my desk daily! (everything is linked below!)

1. LG Ultragear 34GN850-B
2. Grovemade Wood Magsafe Stand
3. Apple Magsafe Charger
4. Grovemade Wood iPad Stand
5. Plugable Thunderbolt Dock
6. Nukoi Vertical Laptop Stand
7. Shure MV7 Mic
8. Enkel Birch Pencil Holder
9. Enkel Birch Catchall Tray
10. Enkel Laptop Stand
11. Monitor Arm
12. Headphone stand
13. Bose 700 Headphones
14. HomePod Mini
15. Dygma Raise
16. Logi MX Master 3 Mouse
17. Samsung T5 SSD

One of my favourite stays that I’ve ever had was in the quirky, creative town of Todos Santos, Baja California Sur. There’s a magic to this town—and the Mexican government knows that! In 2006, Todos Santos was deemed a Pueblo Mágico—one of just 100 or so small towns honored for its natural beauty, cultural riches, or historical relevance.

While here, I stayed at Villa Santa Cruz, an absolutely stunning beachfront property run by Matt and Jessica, who fell in love with Baja on a trip in 2001. What was just a raw stretch of land is now slowly developing into a beautiful coastal paradise, created for travelers, surfers, and artists alike. They built Villa Santa Cruz on a 40+ acre piece of land, and it’s a hacienda-style villa that pays homage to Mexico’s rich architectural history.

The Room

I stayed in one of their Tented Ocean Suites, and my goodness…it was something else. These suites sit right along the coast, with a private little beach backyard with a firepit and public access to the beach. The space also has two outdoor seats and a lovely hammock for you to enjoy the sunset (or sunrise if you’re up early enough!)

The room itself was spacious, comfortable, cozy, and beautifully designed. The king size bed was extremely comfortable (might be one of the most comfortable hotel beds I’ve stayed in), and there are beanie seats as well as a desk space. The room is open concept, and you can walk to the back of the suite to your beautiful concrete bathtub, double sinks, and shower. There are windows all around with the largest windoed sliding door right at the front over looking the beach.

The Property

There is so much beautiful open space on the property for you to explore and wander. The hotel has two ATVs that you can rent to explore the coast. Or walk along the coast to the famous restaurant, The Green Room, a local favourite.

There’s a beautiful pool on the property that is surrounded by greenery but close enough to the ocean that you can see it in the backdrop. It is the definition of serene. It’s so easy to lose track of time when you’re in this peaceful, beautiful environment. I could’ve spent all my time in Todos Santos here to be quite honest!

Don’t walk, run

I am absolutely in LOVE with this place and I highly highly recommend you staying here when visiting Todos Santos. I was lucky enough to chat with Jessica during my stay, and she is an incredible human and host. You have to see this place for yourself!

1. Verity – Colleen Hoover

Themes: Mystery, Thriller, Love, Drama, Family, Heartbreak

2. A Court of Thorns and Roses – Sarah J. Maas

Themes: Fantasy, Magic, War, Love, Soul Mates, Creatures, Faeries, Humans

3. Book Lovers – Emily Henry

Themes: Love, Career, Book Industry, Books, Family, New York

4. The Vanishing Half – Brit Bennett

Themes: Racial Injustice, History, America, Assimilation, Family, Love

5. Hench – Natalie Zina Walschots

Themes: Super Heroes, Dystopian World, Self-Esteem, Career, Good vs Evil, Love

Ingredients:

• Strawberry Lemonade (you can use regular lemonade as well)
• Fresh watermelon juice
• Watermelon slice (for garnish)
• Muddled blackberries and raspberries
• 1 (or 2 ?) shots of Iceberg Vodka
• Ice

Preparation:

1. Muddle the berries and place at bottom of glass
2. Blend watermelon until smooth
3. Mix watermelon juice, ice, strawberry lemonade, and Iceberg Vodka in shaker
4. Pour over muddled berries
5. Garnish with a small slice of watermelon
6. Serve!

Want more recipes? Check out my food category!

Ingredients:

• 1/2 spoon chocolate protein, I use this one from Vega
• 1/2 a pitted date
• 1 tbs almond butter
• 1 cup frozen blueberries
• 1/2 banana

Preparation:

1. Blend all the ingredients in a blender
2. Enjoy!

Keeps for 4-5 days, refrigerated

Ingredients:

• 2 cups cashews, soaked overnight
• 1-2 tbs of nutritional yeast
• Juice of half a lemon
• Oregano
• Thyme
• Rosemary (you can really add whatever herbs and spices that you want!)
• 2 cloves garlic
• Oat milk
• Salt & pepper

Preparation:

1. Put all the ingredients into a blender
2. Blend until smooth!